01. Making Amends
I can’t grow if I hold resentments. Forgiveness is a sign of strength. I have to forgive others for my sake. Healthy minds don’t focus on the small things.
I have an obligation to be my best self.
I have to change my thoughts from, “How little I have” to “How resourceful I am to have the opportunity to apologize. I have the chance to make amends.
Not making amends is selfish.
Not owning up to my contribution is selfish.
Not holding myself accountable is selfish.
Keeping my side of the street clean,
Removes anxiousness, it removes anxiety.
Keep building good habits
Reinforces building solid foundations for relationships.
Making amends feels accomplished
makes me feel centered by adding value.
Helps me appreciate who I am
Who I was. How much I’ve grown.
I can’t grow if I hold resentments.
Forgiveness is a sign of strength.
I have to forgive others for my sake.
Healthy minds don’t focus on the small things.
It’s healthy to let go, to let God.
It’s okay to make amends and forgive.
It’s okay to not get an apology.
It’s okay to forgive others for your own peace of mind (not theirs).
If I don’t let go, I might as well be an addict. I’m no better than I was.
If I let the alcoholic mind make decisions for me, then I’ve lost everything.
My sobriety means more to me than anger.
My sobriety means more to me than my ego.
If I’m sad because of a resentment,
How can I grow, if I don’t let go?
Decide to become a better person,
by making amends when it’s safe to do so.
Making friends & having relationships is a good thing,
but if I find myself constantly making amends;
I can change the people I surround myself with
Or I can change the person who finds themselves in situations where they have to make amends.
When I start taking accountability for my life.
When I make a list of those I harmed as a result of my addiction,
Eventually I work my way down that list, making amends.
Who I am at the beginning of that list isn’t the same person at the end of that list.
Making amends is not something that one day I’m going to do,
It’s something that everyday I’m doing.
The first list I made was hard, the second list wasn’t any easier.
But I did become stronger.
Stronger decision maker, life shaper, accountability taker.
Going through the process, I began to qualify what I want in life.
What behaviours I will no longer tolerate from others (and from myself).
I associated that not making amends costs me.
It costs me freedom, happiness, growth, & opportunity.
Not keeping my side of the street clean costs me.
Focusing on the small things (like my ego) costs me.
The selfish Jason apologizes & makes amends when I have to.
The grateful Jason apologizes & makes amends because it’s the right thing to do.
I can’t change something unless I own up to it.
I’m sorry.
Thank you everyone, Take Care.
Jason
